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What is Dialectical Thinking
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๐๐ง๐ฑ๐ข๐๐ญ๐ฒ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ ๐๐๐ฌ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ญ๐๐ฌ. It enjoys “either-or thinking” to keep you stuck, lost, and doubtful. It says you are either on one end of the extreme or the other. It is all or nothing. It is black or white. This is against our nature because, ๐๐ญ ๐๐ง๐ฒ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ง ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ง๐ญ, ๐ฐ๐ ๐๐๐ง ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ง ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ . • Imagine you had a conflict with a loved one. You start to reflect on their perspective and needs, and you start to have empathy. Now, will the empathy magically erase the hurt and sadness you felt? Should you force yourself to “get over the sadness” now that you are feeling empathy? Do you ask yourself, am I really having authentic empathy if I am feeling sad? ๐๐ข๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐๐๐ฅ ๐๐๐ง ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐-๐ฌ๐๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ข๐ญ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฒ “๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐จ๐ฏ๐.” To say: Yes I am sad and I know you didn’t mean it. • “Both-And” thinking, aka dialectical thinking, gives you a new perspective when you don’t have to pick sides. ๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ง ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐จ ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ, ๐๐๐๐ญ๐ฌ, ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ฌ, ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐๐ฌ, ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐๐ง ๐๐จ-๐๐ฑ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฌ. • It is intentional, purposeful, and powerful to use the word “AND” instead of “but.” If I were to say, “I accept things as they are but I want to change,” you are now only focusing on the second sentence. The first part about accepting yourself doesn’t really matter as much anymore. • Thinking dialectically by using more of “and” instead of “but,” ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐, ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐, ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐๐ง๐๐. The fact is, it becomes a little easier to deal with things when it comes from a place of acceptance rather than the rejection of parts of self. • I am doing my best I want to do better. • I accept things as they are I can make changes . • I am feeling scared I can do hard things. • I love spending time with you I need my alone time. • I am doing enough I can set new goals. • RESOURCES: • ๐ I want to share a free resource with you in case you would find it helpful. It’s a 6-step mini-course I created on overcoming perfectionism. It’s all via email, so no strings attached :) • Here is more info: https://www.perfectionismuniversity.c... • ๐ SIGN UP FOR THE COURSE: • https://perfectionismuniversity.mykaj... • __________________ • โถ๏ธ CONTACT DR. MENIJE • ๐ Website: www.perfectionismuniversity.com • ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- • โถ๏ธ CONNECT WITH DR. MENIJE • ๐ Facebook: / drmenijeboduryan • ๐ Instagram: / dr.menije • ๐ Yelp: https://www.yelp.com/biz/menije-boduryan • ๐ Pinterest: / mboduryan • Get More Great Info Tips -- โถ๏ธ SUBSCRIBE! • Thank you for watching
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